Adler's view on life through coloured glasses

An Adlerian Perspective of how life is seen through Different Colored Glasses.                                        

 

Because we come from

                                      different childhoods

                                      different families

                                      different experiences

                                      different values

                                    &   different beliefs

 

            we can truly say that we all look at life through

                   different coloured glasses.

 

We can then understand that in any interaction,

          my truth is not always your truth

          and there is essentially

                                                No right or wrong

                                                No good or bad

                                                No blame or fault.

 

We are then able to give another being

          the dignity and respect of their own opinions.

 

We bring many learned responses with us from childhood.

          They exert an unnecessary pressure in our lives

                   and allow us to fool ourselves and those around us.

 

If we could learn to change

          should                             to       could

          (Involving pressure)                             (Giving us choice)

          can’t                               to       won’t

          (An excuse)                              (Being honest)

          waiting for                      to       prepare for

          (Anxiety provoking)                            (Showing courage)

          try                                  to       will or won’t

          (A set up for failure)                          (Being honest)

          guilt                                to       resentful

          (Manipulative)                           (Being honest)

                     We might find new response brings new life!

 

Every behavior has a purpose . . .

 

          Ask yourself . .

                                      What purpose does this behavior serve?

                                      What do people do when I act in this manner?

 

This will help you understand your patterns of behavior

          and help find your sense of ‘being’ who you really are.

 

               Our behavior is chosen for the impact it brings.

use wisely the power of choice . .

 

          choose to love . . .             rather than hate

          choose to laugh . . . rather than cry

          choose to create . . .         rather than destroy

          choose to persevere . . .    rather than quit

          choose to praise . . .          rather than gossip

          choose to heal . . .             rather than wound

          choose to give . . .             rather than steal

          choose act . . .                  rather than procrastinate

          choose to grow . . .            rather than rot

          choose to pray . . .            rather than curse

          choose to live . . .             rather than die

                                                                   (Og Mandino)

 

Choose to be the person you came here to be

 

          change . . .

                             Is seeing things from a different angle

                             Is allowing your imagination to create alternatives