Guilt, Jealously, Anger, Boredom ....

GUILT is objective.  Either one did it or did not do it.

 

GUILT COMPLEX is a demonstration of worthlessness

 

GUILT FEELINGS are subjective.  How one feels about it

       may have no actual validity.

 

GUILT FEELINGS are the expression of good intentions which we do not have.  A person who is sincere in his regret does not develop guilt feelings, but makes an attempt to correct and amend what he has done.    (Dreikers)

 

GUILT FEELINGS are not concerned with the misdeed, but with one’s own prestige.  One does not feel guilty, but inferior.  (Dreikers)

 

GUILT FEELINGS:         indicate moral superiority

                                      are manipulative

                                      are good for revenge

                                      are used for attention

                                      help us avoid participation

                                      keep the conflict going

                                      say ‘no punishment please’

                                      help us appear compliant

                                                when we’re really very angry.

 

            Do not use the word GUILT if you plan to re enact the behavior

 

HOSTILE FEELINGS:   thoughts we dwell on to help us feel that someone else should take action.  We usually create these feelings when life is demanding something from us that is not consistent with our ‘lifestyle’. . our own way of thinking.

 

JEALOUSY:   a feeling we create to control others, maintain their attention, hurt them or create a distraction so they won’t notice our shortcomings.

 

 

ANGER:   can be a power trip to intimidate someone to do, or not to do, something you want.

 

SELF ANGER:   can be for the purpose of making yourself feel

          as if you’re doing something about the situation . .                                                        

          influencing others not to make demands on you

          or it can be self motivation . .

                   realizing an old pattern and being angry enough to change it.                                                                                    

 

BOREDOM:  for the purpose of asking another to make life interesting for you . .    rebelling against life’s demands

 

TEMPER:  creating a feeling of being out of control

          while trying to scare someone into our way of thinking.

 

CREATIVE RESPONSIBILITY:   Looking at the results of your behavior ‘AS IF’ they were the results you wanted.  Now, use this sense of responsibility, not to blame self, but to explore creative possibilities as to why you MIGHT have wanted the results you achieved.  This forces us to think creatively about getting results that differ from what we claim we desire.  (Dreikers)

                                                                                     

          OUR BEHAVIOR IS CHOSEN FOR THE IMPACT IT BRINGS

 

                    KNOW THAT FREEDOM CARRIES RESPONSIBILITY

 

                           HAVE THE COURAGE TO BE IMPERFECT